tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6737275857743434503.post7650094000970392223..comments2023-09-09T04:03:08.154-07:00Comments on The <p>Crazy <p>Cat <p>Lady</p></p></p>: A Roller-coaster....kittykyehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15457039371073130036noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6737275857743434503.post-65028495756255809772010-04-18T06:42:29.844-07:002010-04-18T06:42:29.844-07:00I am so very sorry that you are being faced with s...I am so very sorry that you are being faced with such an awful decision. You are right, it is not fair.<br /><br />I would wholeheartedly recommend getting a second opinion from another vet. I now do that with tricky cases, and I find it immensely helpful, partly because I know the vet's opinion will be removed from any of the politics/ budgeting/ ethos etc of the shelter or the vet you are initially dealing with.<br /><br />It also helps to make things clear in my mind about the severity of the situation. I fought against a euthanasia that I now realise was necessary. I faught it based on my emotions, I thought if I could care for him enough he would pull through. I regret that I put him through additional pain because I wasn't prepared to really look at the situation.<br /><br />On the other hand, I faught against a euthanasia (my Lishy's) after seeing another vet and finding out what they thought the prognosis was. I was confident in my decision, and know it was the right one.<br /><br />One of the ironys of foster caring is that on occasion kittens make it to an older age than they would if just being looked after by their mum, because of the extra care they receive. Sometimes they make it to old age, other times they might make it to four weeks, but still longer than they otherwise would. I had two kittens who crashed on me at four weeks old, when I was very new to looking after bottle babies. The vet was amazed that they had made it to that age, because they had deformities in their mouths and throats that in my inexperience I had been unaware of. The force feedings only bought them some time.<br /><br />I guess what I am really trying to say is that sometimes we fight for ourselves just as much as the little ones. I now make decisions in conjunction with my other half and our independant vet, because I do not trust myself to be able to make a decision based soley on the facts. I desperately want to save them all, and sometimes I can't see past that emotion. I am lucky to have a vet who is good at clearly stating the quality of life issues with each kitten.<br /><br />I also wanted to say something about the risk of looking at other kitties with the same condition. One of my bubbas was euthanised at 6 weeks old with cat flu. After seeing all these other healthy cats with cat flu who just needed a bit of lysine to fight off outbreaks, I tortured myself over it. It wasn't until I sat down with the vet and he explained that while my kitten was sick with the cat flu, it's severity had caused catastrophic effects in his systems and he would have died regardless. It had effected him in a different way to the other cats I had seen. It is something to remember with your kitties, too. The ones you see on YouTube are the success stories, and won't necessarily reflect the prognosis for Wesley and L.<br /><br />Please know that I am thinking of you and the kittens, and you are in my prayers. The care and love you have given these babies has made all the difference in the world for them.Forever Fosterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16629913777113947118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6737275857743434503.post-20108516785812508152010-04-18T06:37:53.449-07:002010-04-18T06:37:53.449-07:00Oh, we are very sorry to hear about the poor kitti...Oh, we are very sorry to hear about the poor kitties. It doesn't seem as if they can get well, which is terribly unfair. We can't tell you what to do but we knows you love them and we knows they can feel your love. ~AFSSAlastriona, The Cats and Dogs https://www.blogger.com/profile/13233710830920626326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6737275857743434503.post-15207269709883424372010-04-18T05:47:50.231-07:002010-04-18T05:47:50.231-07:00Just has to add that I know you are a loving and c...Just has to add that I know you are a loving and caring foster Mom. You will do what is best for your babies. Trust your heart. You have already given them so much love and tenderness that they might never have otherwise known. Please don't regret a single minute and never feel that you let them down. Whatever decision you make will be the right one.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />MegAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6737275857743434503.post-8268291245600034192010-04-18T05:02:30.353-07:002010-04-18T05:02:30.353-07:00My family and I are so sad to hear this news. You...My family and I are so sad to hear this news. You just simply have to trust your hearts and decide what is best for them as they cannot do that for themselves. Purrs and prayers to you all.Brian's Home Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08809631273441407139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6737275857743434503.post-6885643762115727952010-04-18T04:34:36.724-07:002010-04-18T04:34:36.724-07:00I know whatever decision you make will be hard for...I know whatever decision you make will be hard for you, but have some faith in yourself, because we all know whatever you decide, it will be best for them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6737275857743434503.post-54891334328327075172010-04-18T03:55:47.359-07:002010-04-18T03:55:47.359-07:00Oh my - my heart aches for you. It is such an ove...Oh my - my heart aches for you. It is such an overwhelming decision to make. Before making that decision please please get a second opinion. Take them all to (another) vet. Perhaps the one we discussed in the email. If nothing else, the second opinion will help reassure you that whatever decision you make is the best one. <br /><br />I wish there was something else we all could do to make this time easier for you. Just know that you are in the hearts and minds of us all. And never apologize for writing this blog. We are all here to help each other and to learn from each other.<br /><br />Blessings to you,<br />MegAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6737275857743434503.post-666427631170931682010-04-17T22:09:04.196-07:002010-04-17T22:09:04.196-07:00Please don't ever apologize for what you write...Please don't ever apologize for what you write on this blog. I'm sending you my love and prayers and know you will make the best decision for them. Angie is right, a second opinion may be best to get so you know that you've made the best decision.<br /><br />Love and blessings,<br />MarleneMarlenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09108395185519194480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6737275857743434503.post-63786635207701035762010-04-17T20:54:05.760-07:002010-04-17T20:54:05.760-07:00oh no!!! can you get a second opinion? that woul...oh no!!! can you get a second opinion? that would help, either with solidifying your decision to hand rear them till they're self sufficient, or with the realization that they need to go on with their big brother. what sad news. i am SO sorry to hear it. :( we're all here. anything you need to express, we want to help you through it.angiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03273161867493673147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6737275857743434503.post-46548018544028752732010-04-17T20:06:36.243-07:002010-04-17T20:06:36.243-07:00Oh, Lyndsay, I'm so sorry to read your post. ...Oh, Lyndsay, I'm so sorry to read your post. There's nothing I can say that hasn't been said, but know that you, Doug and your little family are in many people's minds, hearts and prayers this weekend.<br /><br />Please never apologize for sharing on your blog. Especially when times are difficult. Supporting each other at times like this is what defines a community.<br /><br />All my love,<br />LisaHubbleSpacePawshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00720087964026883620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6737275857743434503.post-9946852028508695792010-04-17T19:11:42.120-07:002010-04-17T19:11:42.120-07:00I'm really sorry to hear this news Lynds. From...I'm really sorry to hear this news Lynds. From an outsider's point of view I think what you need to focus on to make this tough decision is if you keep them alive are you keeping them in pain? It's very difficult, but sometimes the best thing to do is to compassionately euthanize. I don't envy you this decision doll. <br />All the bestTracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00114290123130053598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6737275857743434503.post-51688057953658209612010-04-17T18:20:52.680-07:002010-04-17T18:20:52.680-07:00My dear friend, I don't know what to say to yo...My dear friend, I don't know what to say to you. No matter what your decision, know that you and your lovely Doug have done everything you can and more. <br /><br />Having those sweet wee kittens in pain is no life though. But you are the one that sees them every day. You are the one that can tell what kind of quality of life they would have.<br /><br />I send you all my love and warm wishes and know that I am thinking of you during this most difficult time.<br /><br />Love and hugs,<br />xo CatherineCatherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08885238657002176243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6737275857743434503.post-14662454679550752222010-04-17T16:56:41.973-07:002010-04-17T16:56:41.973-07:00We are so saddened to hear this news. It is NEVER...We are so saddened to hear this news. It is NEVER easy to let a beloved pet go. But, you have to keep in mind that they are suffering and will never have a chance at a normal life. I know these aren't words to hear and believe me, if I could make them well for you, I would. They are such sweethearts but again, they are hurting. I know this will be one of the hardest decisions you will have to make, but think that you're doing it for THEM. I had to put my dearlt departed Scooter(RIP) down, last April of 2009. I didn't want to (for my selfishness) but not doing so would have had her die an slow, agonizing death. She had cancer. I am so sorry for you and send you a big (((Hug))).<br /><br />I'm sorry...<br />ShannonAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com